Hey Coach! I was interviewing for a job last month and I had a really negative experience. The person who was performing the interview spent more time flirting with me then he did actually asking me relevant questions. I was professional and friendly during the interview and I have been asked to come on-site for a second interview. I really want to work for this company but I am really put off by what happened. Should I just keep quiet and take the job if it is offered to me? What other alternatives do I have?
I am sorry you had a bad experience during your interview. Know that you are not alone. Inappropriate conduct during job interviews is more common then you might think. Knowing how to react can be hard because of the dynamics of the situation.
The first thing I would do is to check myself and be sure that the interviewer really was flirting with you. Some folks are just really friendly and may not know how they are coming off to others. Think back on the situation and be sure that the behaviors you experienced really were what you thought they were. If you have friends who were interviewed by the same person, you might want to check with them to see if they got the same treatment.
Once you have established that the behavior was definitely out of line, you have some thinking to do. The first thing you need to do is to think about whether the interviewerís behavior was offensive enough to make you lose interest in the employer. The interviewer is a representative of the company and it may be the case that you just donít want to have anything to do with a company that could allow this behavior to happen. If this is the case, then you should let someone know about what happened right away and see how they react.
You might be surprised by the way that the company handles your complaint and this may actually tell you a lot about them. If they take it seriously and ask that you continue to consider them, your experience may have been an isolated incident. However, if the company handles it poorly and does not seem to really care too much, you may want to walk away.
If you really do want the job and decide to continue interviewing, you may want hold off on saying anything right away. Continue with the interviewing process and see how you are treated by other representatives of the company. You may even subtly ask questions during your interviews and discussions that may help you gain a better understanding of the culture within the company. Do some detective work and see if there are any other indications of problems related to sexual harassment or inappropriate actions. If you don't see any signs that there are problems and you end up getting the job, I would definitely tell someone about the incident. You owe it to your employer and those who are being interviewed in the future to make sure that the problem gets corrected. jp